1. Lose the Idealism

To truly enjoy sex, there is one thing that you absolutely must do, stop worrying about what other people think. Get rid of all of those self-imposed limiting beliefs that are keeping your sex life utterly boring.

2. Try New Things

Vow to try new sex positions, new sex toys, and new sex act this summer. Variety is the spice of life and adventure broadens your horizons. Don’t be timid, keep an open mind and try something new in bed, whether it’s anal sex, a threesome, or living out your wildest fantasies. It could even be as simple as just admitting that it’s OK to like sex.

3. Embrace Erotica

Read more erotic books and watch more erotic movies (ideally with your partner, but if you’re flying solo – enjoy!). Commit to reading at least one sexual novel each month. Find an author and a theme that you like and start reading. I challenge you to get through one whole book without getting excited.

4. Have More Sex. Lose Weight. Feel Great.

Sex is great exercise and it is WAY more fun than going to the gym. Sex improves circulation and aerobic fitness by increasing heart rate and respiration and exercises many major muscle groups. Did you know that you can burn between 100 to 300 calories per hour during sex?

5. Talk about Sex

Have a conversation with your partner or friends about sex. Again, lose the idealism. If you have a partner, how else are you going to know what turns them on? How will they know what turns you on? Not talking about sex is a certain formula for failure or at least a really boring sex life.

6. Masturbate

This is something that just about everyone does and almost no one talks about. It’s one of the best ways to relax, ease your tension, and get in touch with your body. Take a time-out from your hectic schedule and spend some quality time with yourself. If you can’t enjoy and love your own body, how can you expect anyone else to please you?

7. Live Your Fantasies

Make a commitment to live your fantasies this year. What do you think about when no one else is around or when you’re masturbating? Write it down and share it with your partner. Who knows, they may just want to help you play out your favorite fantasy and you’ll both be in for some exciting surprises. Just talking about your fantasies with your partner can often lead to hot sex on the spot.

8. Organize Your Sex Toys

Quit throwing that vibrator under the bed with the dust bunnies. Keep your ropes, leather straps, dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys clean and stored in a drawer or box. They’ll last longer and you’ll always know where to find them when you want them.

Sex toys may not be your thing, but don’t make that judgment until you’ve at least tried some variations.

9. Dress to Impress

Do you really expect your partner to see you wearing your baggy shorts with the hole in the backside and those glasses at the end of your nose as you read the paper, and still find you sexy? Do you feel sexy when you dress that way – NO.

Save those “extra comfy” clothes for those times when you’re alone – wear something nice when you’re together, or at least get dressed…

10. Put Your Partner First

Guys, be more polite – let your spouse orgasm first. She puts up with a lot, so try putting her first once in a while and give her a screaming orgasm (or two or three) before you even think about it.